News from Leaders By Design

At the highest levels of leadership, communication isn’t just about being heard — it’s about who shapes strategy, who gets credit, and who gets the next seat at the table. Here’s what I’ve learned working with senior executive women who are done leaving that to chance.

I’ve spent decades watching talented senior women second-guess themselves into strategic paralysis — not because they lacked confidence, but because the rules are stacked against them. In this post, I name the traps, share strategies I’ve found effective, and offer a more useful reframe than trying to please everyone in the room.

Executive meetings have an architecture — one built over decades around the communication norms of male-dominated hierarchies. The rules are largely unwritten. But they are real. And they systematically disadvantage the way many senior women naturally communicate. Women who consistently get heard in high-stakes rooms aren’t louder or more aggressive. They’re more strategically positioned.